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91 | Helping Moms in Middle Motherhood with Kara

March 27, 2023 Courtney McManus Episode 91
Moving through Midlife | Habit Stack & Movement Snacks for Midlife Moms, Parenting in Midlife | Fitness over 40
91 | Helping Moms in Middle Motherhood with Kara
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Today I am speaking with Kara, a mom and life coach that helps moms find clarity around their purpose in life as they enter middle motherhood. We had a great conversation about how taking time to go within and listen to your heart, you can begin to take action towards God’s purpose for you. If you are a mom asking yourself what’s next or questioning the path you are currently on, this conversation is for you.

-Please tell me a little bit about yourself and your passion with Middle Motherhood?

-Is there anything moms should prepare for as they move into middle motherhood?

-What is the first thing you recommend moms do to help them determine there purpose?  As just the thought of the word, can be so overwhelming.

-You focus on God Centered Purpose, but can you explain that more; as I have heard people mention that god spoke to them but I’m guessing you may have a different approach

-Do you have any tips or questions to help mom through this journey?

-Let us know how we can find you

Learn more about Kara:
Kara Trochta is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Mindset Coach that helps Catholic & Chrisitian moms discover their true identity and God-centered purpose so they can live happier, healthier and holier lives. She believes that God created us to be moms, but that he also made us for more--to share our unique gifts and talents with the world and create ripple effects of impact. She lives in Texas with her husband and three kids and enjoys the outdoors, reading, board games and watching her kids enjoy the activities they love.

 

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Welcome to raising healthy humans. A podcast created for busy moms where you can easily find info on health and wellness for your family. Join Courtney, a health coach movement and posture specialist and founder form fit and active and supportive community where she helps busy moms move more here on raising healthy humans podcast. She shares personal life experiences, training, knowledge and conversations with other health and wellness experts so you can raise healthy humans. Today, I am speaking with Kara, a mom and life coach that helps moms find clarity around their purpose in life as they enter middle motherhood. We had a great conversation about how taking time to go within and really listen to your heart, you can begin to take action towards God's purpose for you. So if you're a mom asking yourself what's next, or questioning the path you are currently on, this conversation is for you. Kara How are you today? Good. How are you, Courtney? I am great. I'm excited to have you on because you are dealing with that time in life with moms where they're in that middle stage. But I love how you call it middle motherhood because that is I've been speaking with a friend of mine, who we are both in this middle life. And we're like we don't like calling it midlife. And she was calling it seasoned mom. But that didn't seem to resonate. So I really love the middle of motherhood. I think that's a great way of putting it. Can you tell me about yourself and your passion with middle motherhood? Yeah, yeah, I'm so excited to be here. I just want to say love the name of your podcast, raising healthy humans like I think and the angle that you take on it like focusing on moms, right? It all starts with us. And that's really kind of where the passion for middle motherhood has has come from. So I'm not sure if you know this, but I'm actually a dietician. By trade, I went to school, to be a dietitian, I specialize in intuitive eating. And that was really my first kind of journey. And to what I do now, as a mindset and life coach, intuitive eating was really kind of at first look into our brains and how our mind impacts so much of our life, especially around food, right, and our relationship with food and our relationship with our body. And so that was really the first thing that kind of sparked this interest into digging deeper into the mindset piece of it. If it's really that first kind of like, I don't want to say point of attack, but for myself personally, and the women that I worked with, from a nutrition standpoint, focusing on the mind, and our thoughts, and our feelings, and our relationship with food and body had the greatest impact, like I've really ever seen as a dietitian. And like parallel to that I was working with a coach, specifically a business coach, and she started to incorporate a lot of mindset work. And while you know, I had moved past the mindset piece with food and body image, I was struggling with mindset around growing a business. And you know, it wasn't anything I've ever done before. And really, that mindset piece allowed me to really dig deep into all these limiting beliefs that I had. And really, it was these thoughts. And, you know, ultimately, these lies were like this plague and it just infected so much of my life. And when I started to get some clarity just around, you know, these beliefs that I had, and really starting to challenge these thoughts. I felt this kind of tug on my heart and I can only attribute it to God and those little desires, those little nudges that we feel, and I fought him on it. I will tell you, I fought him tooth and nail on it. I'd spent all last summer saying nope, I'm not going to do this. I'm not going to pivot like I went to school to be a dietician, I gotta use that degree like that's what I have to do. And all along I just kept hearing him say like, you need to help these moms. You need to help these moms because I was a stay at home mom for several years. And my youngest started kindergarten this last year. And I kind of remember the pivotal point I was at his Transitional Kindergarten field trip and I was standing around talking to this group of moms and everyone was like, what are you gonna do with all your free time now that all your kids are in school? And you know at the time I had a business but there were other women who are in the same boat where they were entering into this phase of middle motherhood. And I'd hear things like, Well, I don't know, or I'll get caught up on, you know, the housework or I'll organize this URL finally into my baby books. And then there was one woman and I remember in particular, she's like, well, I guess I'm gonna go back to an accounting job. I don't even know if I like accounting anymore. But, you know, I kind of feel this pressure that since the kids are in school, I need to earn money, like, I kind of feel this pressure from my husband. And just the more I thought about it, the more I like leaned into God telling me like, Kara, you have, like you have some gifts, you have some tools to help these moms through this transition to start to answer some of these questions of who am I? You know, what do I do? Now? How do I want to spend my days, you know, as moms like, our kids are a lot of times our whole life. And it's not to say that that's wrong or bad. But at some point, they grow up and they leave the home. And this is why you hear all these empty nesters who kind of go through this identity crisis. And I really think the first phase starts with this middle motherhood when all of your kids are in school, and you're like, I don't know what to do. And yes, or maybe you catch up on organizing things. I still have yet to even open my third child's baby book and start that it will probably stay in the box forever. Poor Ryan. But I quickly realized like, the laundry wasn't fulfilling. Like, if your kids aren't home all day, your house pretty much stays clean. So there's not like meetings to clean it all the time. And yeah, I just felt like there was this calling to really help moms through this transition to middle motherhood. Okay. Well, you've touched on quite a few things there that I'd love to kind of dig into deeper. Because this, this was me. Very similar. I owned a business. But it was stroller fitness. And my children had all gotten to the point where they were out of strollers. And I kept my daughter in, I mean, up until she was in elementary school. So I continued. And then I kind of got to the point where I was like, I don't know if this is what I want to do anymore. Seven years later, I'm back in it, but but I think it was that you it's almost like I don't want to say midlife crisis. But it almost feels like that where you're like now what? Like, my purpose was raising my children. And I had coincided my fitness business, because it was stroller fitness with raising my children like that was what I was going to do in tandem. And then once they were no longer with me, it was like, Oh, who am I? Now? That's a very hard thing. Can you like thinking about that's not my situation specifically. But when moms think to themselves, who am I? Now? What do you recommend is like that first step to help moms kind of figure out what they're going to do like, what is what do you recommend? Yeah, I want to kind of get, I have a recommendation. But I kind of it's almost like a backwards recommendation of maybe like, what we tend to do and why it doesn't work and what to do instead. But we start to ask the question of what Now who am I? And the first thing we do, and this is with every part of our life, we look to someone else, right? We scroll the internet looking for a solution to answer these questions. And oftentimes we can find an answer, we can find a solution we can you know, do someone else's program or, you know, someone will say do this, and you will be happy because I think that's really the root of it, is we we these questions come up and we feel this discontent, like we feel uncomfortable, and we just want to feel better. And so we tend to have the tendency to look for those kind of like, quick, satisfying things that make us feel better. But it's all external, we look to the world around us. And while that may offer us some like temporary reprieve, and like we can try some of these things, and maybe we feel better, and still doesn't get into like that heart of the authenticity of who we ourselves are and who we were created to be. I think a big thing to remember is that, like God doesn't want carbon copies of us, like we don't need more of the same person. We were all given these unique gifts and these unique talents. So I think that's a really good place to start is to kind of reflect on what are some things that you enjoy doing? Like what are some of these kind of like natural gifts and abilities that you have? And a good place to start is you can ask Your friends, you can ask your family, like, what are these things that you're seeing in me, because oftentimes, we don't see them in ourselves. And so really starting to tap into what your interests are, you know, I think we feel a lot of pressure to go back to whatever our degree was in or, you know, whatever we had training and and we're not the same people that we were before we had kids, and often times if we're going to pursue something, and it doesn't even have to be, you know, something that produces an income, even volunteering wise, we don't have the same interests, we don't have the same like perspective and view on the world. And so really, I think, digging into understanding like, what makes you tick, like, what sets your soul on fire? What are your interests, what are problems that maybe you would want to solve or, you know, of a community or population that you would want to serve. And I think that's a really good place to start, instead of looking like to everybody else to solve this problem, kind of go inwards. And it can be challenging. But that's really where that mindset piece and like that coaching comes in, as it's being able to kind of see how your mind works and really uncovered, I call it a lot, I call it mind drama a lot. But we tend to get stuck in our heads. There's a lot of noise, constant noise that just funneled through our head all day long. And so if you can't filter through that mind drama, it makes it very challenging to even know where to start like to have a sense of direction. Yeah, well, when you mentioned thinking about things we enjoy. And I always think about like one thing that I enjoy, but I don't know, like how do you keep that for people to wear? It might be like a hobby of theirs. But when your hobby turns into your work, you may not have the same enjoyment with with it. So are there things that you usually recommend for moms in the way of finding that through line? I know you mentioned, like asking family members or friends as well. What do you think about like turning your hobby into a job? Oh, that's an interesting question. Um, so what I find is interesting is that as a coach, I don't have the answers, all the answers are within each person. And so my role as a coach is to kind of help you filter through all of that and pull these answers out from within you. And, and, you know, really taking it and relying on God and making him a part of the that equation. Do a lot of like, goal setting with God and kind of that discernment process, like, a big piece is like creating this vision of what we would want our life to look like going forward, how are we spending our days what things are we doing, and then it's like, we have this vision, this kind of roadmap, and we're driving the car, but the whole time, God's our GPS to kind of point us in that direction, like maybe we take a wrong turn, and then he can kind of fix that for us. So as far as like hobby into your career, it's a really individual thing, right? Some people will not enjoy turning their hobby into a career, right? It's very much you can kind of think about it in these different bucket buckets, we have like our work. And that can be, you know, things at home being a mom are volunteer opportunities or career, and then we can have the personal peace. So I think some people will never turn their hobbies into a career, and that's okay, but maybe that's a volunteer opportunity. Or maybe that's what they do, in order to kind of fuel themselves for this particular career. Like, okay, I hope that makes sense. I feel like about this, like, we deplete a lot, and then have to like pause and refill. It's like that empty cup. And so having those hobbies are a good way to kind of replenish that cup. And I say that just because I've been struggling with that lately, just within my own business of feeling, you know, discouraged. And what I realized was that I had gotten into this all or nothing mindset of I have to spend every waking minute that my kids are in school working on growing this business. And by consequence, I wasn't doing other things that I enjoyed, like going to a yoga class or going to Bible studies or having lunch with friends because in my head, I was telling myself, I can't do that I will never have a successful business if I if I incorporate these things, but by not incorporating the hobbies. I was not like I wasn't fooling myself, or the business piece and I was leading it was leading to discouragement and frustration and resentment and and kind of all those things. So it's, it's like really looking at it from that whole person perspective. So even if your hobby does become a career or a passion that you pursue, what are the other things that you're doing to make sure like, because we can go down the all or nothing pretty quickly, right, right? Well, I want to mention something just because I find it interesting what you said. And if was in line with something I was reading. Yesterday, I purchased a book from someone who does a lot of Bible study. And she was mentioning how doing the mundane things while raising your children may not seem to be what your purpose is in life at that time. But being with God, doesn't mean you have to actively be moving forward with your purpose. Sometimes being with God as just being with God, and changing those diapers or doing those things might be that portion of it. So I wanted to mention that. The other thing I wanted to ask you, is, you mentioned like sitting down and allowing God to speak to you by and like you mentioned, you're kind of at a crossroads type thing, I feel a pull to a few different things. And I think that I would enjoy any one of these things. How do you? How do you let God speak to you? I mean, I feel like sometimes, you know, like you had mentioned, he'll kind of you'll, you had this direction from him, he spoke to you and mentioned like, you need to go in this direction. How do you one know, it's him speaking? Because I've had a few of these different things. And I'm like, Oh, this would be great. But then I get nervous. And then I'm like, you know, you have like a few things. What about that person? Who's the squirrel like myself? And is getting these different? Downloads, so to speak? How do you know like, what to listen to? And what to let go of? So that that I mean, that's a really good question. I will say that when I was stuck in a lot of mind drama, and like a lot of the swirling thoughts, especially when struggling with food and body image, I would hear people say, well, the Holy Spirit spoke to me. And I'm like, yeah, that doesn't happen to me, what am I doing? What am I doing wrong? Right? Like, why? Why am I not hearing this? And a big part of it was all the noise in my head. So I think having the tools and and being able to filter those different thoughts and those different beliefs, like when you feel that fear, like as a coach, I hope you see the trajectory, if you continue to think this, how does that play out in life? Like, is that leading you closer to God? Is that leading you towards sin? It varies as far as like, what that trajectory? does? Does it lead you to, to more service? Does it lead you to a greater good? Is it interfering with, you know, other areas of your life that are important that you know, you're being called to like, mom and raising your kids? Or does it complement that does it allow you to serve in a different way that you can be a better mom. So it's really capturing some of those thoughts and playing them out. Like if we continue to think this, this is how that's going to impact your life. So managing the mind drama is huge. When I started to do that, I felt a lot more clarity and a lot more peace and a lot more calm that I could start to listen to, like you said, these different downloads, right, these different thoughts that would come into my mind. And I really relied a lot on my emotions, like how it felt in my body, right? Like when I thought about this call to navigating middle motherhood with moms. It was very fearful, but it kept coming back. And sometimes that's a really big clue when it continues to be something that's like a pool and a tug on your heart. It's those little nudges that's him speaking to you, or at least that's the way it was for me. Now, again, everybody has that different connection. I know a lot of people who they'll get just different like they can see things and pictures and images. I get a lot of clarity by writing things out like just having conversations and writing out my thoughts and playing it out and like just basically writing out a conversation is how I feel a lot of clarity. But I think our emotions play a lot into that as well like knowing that our emotions have a physical manifestation. And while there may be some fear like what is the tone of that fear, right? Is it? Is it like this, this flight or fight where you know, it's bad? Or is it more of a nervousness where it's like, I'm excited about this, but I am nervous. And a lot of the clarity comes with taking action. And I think that can be a downside to moms and middle motherhood is that we think whatever we do next has to be the forever thing. And sort of looking at this phase as an opportunity to explore, like different opportunities and different adventures and like just kind of thinking about like, Okay, if I try this, like giving yourself permission to just try an experiment, and like, Okay, if that didn't work, it didn't fail, you just now learn the skill that in a way to know that that's not what you were meant to do, or you're not supposed to do it this way. And so, I think that's where the difference between like, doing coaching within, like faith based and God centered versus secular coaching is, failure has a very different perspective, it becomes more of a learning process instead of like, a hard, well, that didn't work, I'm going to walk away from it, you, you're not alone in it, and it takes a lot of pressure off for yourself. Well, and I think if, if we all look back, like nothing that we have done has been linear, right? zig and zag and move around so that I think we want to and that's where some of like the anxiety comes in for us as moms, women, human beings, is this like, wanting to see the clear future? And we can't. So we get very nervous and anxious about what's to come, but maybe just leaning in. And like you said, leaning in to knowing that God is there with you. And He will help you on this journey so that nothing you're doing is wrong. It's an opportunity to learn to make that next step, whether it be straight ahead, or off to the side. Yeah, I think it's interesting that you bring up the past, though, right? Because for most of us, we have like, our teenage selves are like, awesome, you did it, you achieved everything you ever dreamed of in life, right? Like, our teenage selves had a vision of what we wanted to do of what we wanted to accomplish. And we didn't overthink it. Like we just took the next step with trust and faith that it was all going to land the way it was going to. And it's like now that we've gotten into this space, we don't know how to dream again, or we're afraid to do it. And like, it's because I think a lot of it is because we've achieved what we always wanted. And now we're at a point in life where it's like, okay, I don't know what I want anymore. And that can be scary. So part of it is like we have that dream muscle, we got to exercise that. Right? If we don't, if we don't dream, we're gonna stay stuck exactly where we where we are, if we don't try if we don't put ourselves out there. And then that leads to like, living vicariously through our kids and their dreams. And, like, I want to challenge moms in middle motherhood, to think about pursuing their dreams as the opportunity to be like, the most amazing role model for your kids. I mean, our kids look to celebrities and professional athletes as their role models. And yeah, they've achieved really great things. But they're not seeing the path and the work and the struggle, and the two steps back before the giant leap forward that it took to get there. But as moms, if we follow our dreams, and we embrace like the journey part of it, we're showing our kids that you don't just snap your fingers and you get that success or you reach that that dream or that goal. It takes work. So if we work on our dreams, and we do it first, we show our kids how to do that. I don't know that's what was motivating. Well, and I'm thinking as you're talking through this, like those, my my kids will talk about these YouTube people and this and that. And I'm on YouTube, and I'm doing the thing and I'm you know, for my business, and they'll kind of jokingly make comments about like, Oh, where are you at today, mom, but they all started somewhere as well. And maybe there's took off better, whatever. But interesting that you say that because they're seeing what I'm having to do to get very little and that it isn't natural for everyone. So yeah, there's no like overnight success. There can be overnight breakthroughs, but those people had to work to get to whatever it is that they've They've achieved and I just think that what better place to do it than in your own household? Yeah. Yeah, for sure. You had mentioned something. Oh, for the dreamer, you had mentioned about moms and having that opportunity to dream and how it was with high school. And I think when we were in high school, there was so much ahead of us. So it was fun to dream. I am a person, I'm a dreamer, I do much more dreaming probably than action. But what I noticed for myself is I'm getting caught up in. That's a great dream. But you now have a limited time. So I think when we're young, we have all this time ahead, and so much opportunity. And as we hit middle motherhood, then it is like, Okay, we see how fast time goes. And we're seeing that time is limited, and therefore maybe for some moms, it's hard to decide which way to step because it might be too late. But I'm gonna challenge that thought, okay, because, okay, it's 16, let's say 16. I just turned 37. So 20 years, right? That's been 20 years of my life, I'm now at 37. If I live to 77, that's 30 years long, let's 30 years and middle motherhood versus 20 years leading up to this point. So I think we think that that we have less time, but in reality, it's, we may have more time in this next phase in this new phase for dreaming for pursuing different interests and hobbies and passions. Like, we tend to want to wait, I think, until the time is perfect, or the idea is perfect. But then we wait. And we wait. And we wait. And we never do. And then you get to the 77 year old and you're like, I just spent all that time waiting. And you know, kind of wishing it away. And I think that leads to more of more of the regret. So, you know, time is a really interesting perspective. And you can even look at it now. Right? How many women are in this middle motherhood phase of their kids are in school, and then their kids are graduating high school, and now they're off to college, and they're the empty nester. And they're waiting till that point to start asking these questions to start pursuing everything. And by that time, you have more deep seated beliefs that you're trying to undo. So I appreciate the perspective, I'm going to challenge it a little bit because No, that's fine. In reality, like I hope I live past 77. So, you know, I at least have, well, that's actually 40 years to 77. So my math was off. But I won't ever say math was my strong suit. But you know, like, it's, it's a relative, and it's a perspective, type issue. I think the big thing is, is when we were in high school, again, we look to everybody else, like we relied on the shoulds. If you made good grades, you'd get into a good college, you'd get a good degree, you'd have a good job, you'd get married, you'd have kids like all the shoulds of what would make you happy, what would make a fulfilling life. And now there's no like blueprint for that there's no manual that you're in this phase of what do you do now, to live that happiness to feel that fulfillment? And so a lot of what we do in coaching is kind of this like life design, really tapping into what do you want? How do you want to live? Like, let's throw the shoulds out the door, because there really is no manual for this phase in life, like you get to decide. And I think that's really where the fear comes in. And maybe not so much the time but just that fear of doing it wrong. Okay. Well, and I'm thinking also what you had mentioned earlier about maybe feeling a little bit of guilt, like you need to step up and step in to help financially at this point. And I guess maybe that's where my time like limited amount of time thinking is, is, you know, how, where do I need to move within my career, to not feel that guilt and not feel like where I can now be an active participant in helping financially because as children, you know, I've got two teen boys and they're both driving and it's like, you know, cars and insurance. And then you start feeling like, I really need to help I need to figure out a way So I don't know, if you have an answer, it really wasn't designed to have an answer. It was more just like, I mean, like, it's interesting, because the simple answer is it's analyzing those thoughts. What are what are we making those thoughts mean? What are you making those thoughts mean? Like, the biggest like life hack and lightbulb moment for me was when I learned, like our thoughts, produce our emotions, which influence the action that we're taking, and the result that we get. So if you want something different in life, you got to go start back at your thoughts. You can't necessarily just focus on the behavior because the behavior doesn't create the sustainability. So we have to really, like uproot some of these beliefs and some of these, these pressures and things that have been embedded in our mind for years and analyze them and say, Do I want to keep this? Do I not want to keep it? If I do want to keep this? What does this look like? How do I? How can I hold on to this thought, without it wreaking emotional havoc on me? Is there a different perspective, we can look at that through an apt mean, mindset is not a fun, like most people are like, I don't need this, like, you know, but I would say I was that person, too. I never thought what would I need a life coach or a mindset coach for like, I was always that high achiever person, like, just achieved and did everything that everybody said I should be doing? And then I got to this point, and I'm like, oh, yeah, there's a lot of things that like, for instance, on the pressures of having your kids and all sporting events and select teams, like my kids are a little bit younger than yours. But you know, I have a seven year old son who plays baseball. And I'm, like, not succumbing to this being busy. And like my fear and driving that was, I don't have my kid on a team. Now he won't make a team in high school. Like, I'm worrying about things that are really truly out of my control and up ending my life at this point, and worrying about it, and it creates anxiety and overwhelm. And so I really had to challenge that belief. Like, is it true that if we do not play select baseball at seven years old, you will not make a team in high school? Well, no, there's there's not truth to that. Right. So that changed. What was important to me right now, I don't want to give up family dinners. I don't want to be you know, running around till nine o'clock at night, when my kids are this age. There's a time for it. But I don't I don't want to do that now. And I think that's where like, we were kind of talking about it. I think before we started with just that authentic authenticity, and we were talking about it and being pet owners, right? Like I know now and I'm okay with accepting, like, I don't want to be a pet owner, I can go out and tell people. I don't really love animals and not feel shame for that, because I know that about myself. But I think oftentimes, we one don't know things about ourselves. Or to we're too afraid to embrace those things about ourselves. Yeah, admit it, because of what other people may think. Yep, exactly. Yeah. becomes really freeing when you stop really like letting what other people think dictate of your life and like, really letting like the path to God, dictate what you want, your actions are, right, like spending more hours at the baseball field and stead of sitting around a family dinner with my kids is probably not gonna get me to heaven any faster. So, I don't know. Can you give our listeners like, our moms? Any tips on what where they should? I know, we mentioned where you should start? And you said go within? But like, is there a journal prompt or anything that you can think of that tends to help your clients? Right off the bat? Yeah, I think really thinking about it's interesting, because when I work with clients that kind of come into, into different paths, some know really, and truly what they want, they can they have that vision, they know goals that they want to work on. And so we take action towards that there's some women who come and there's just so much noise in their head that they can't even begin to think about what they would want. And so we have to start with really unraveling that mind drama. So I think a good thing too, a good place to start is being awareness is really the first key. So being aware of your thoughts throughout the day, like what are kind of the repetitive thoughts that keep coming up. And a really good way to analyze that is to see like, what are the kind of some of the bad habits that you have right? Do you struggle with emotional eating Do you struggle with kind of like pouring yourself a glass of wine mindless At the end of the day, are you Mindlessly scrolling social media or online shopping? Right? Those are going to be your triggers, that there's some underlying mind drama that's leading to that you don't like those habits. So what's leading to that, and those are usually the thoughts that continue to plague you. So that awareness piece is really, really awesome. And where I really like to start with people is, I really think doing a life audit and an inventory is is huge. And I do that it's a free session for anybody who wants to do a life audit, they can book that with me. And it's, there's no, like, you don't have to continue with coaching. But if you if you don't want to, or if it's not the right time, there's no pressure, I guess, is what I'm getting at. But in this life audit, it's just really helping you look at these different categories in your life and see, you know, what is working? Like? Do you have good habits in this area of life? Is there anything you want to change? Is there any like, habit that isn't serving you. And these are like all categories of life, health and wellness, not just career and passion, but like your relationships, your friendships. So we kind of break it down into these these different categories. And just help give you a snapshot of like, at this point in your life, this is where things stand. And it creates that picture. And then this picture of if this is where things are, is there anything I want to change? And if so, this is how we move forward with that. These are the changes that you would want to make. So it creates a lot of clarity. And so I think that's a really good place to start as well. Like I said, a free session. I like I love doing the life audits, because it just creates so many aha moments for women, and just gives them a place to start. So yeah, so can you tell us where we can find you where we can go for the life audit and all of that information? Yeah, um, so I will say the website, but I'm assuming you'll have it in shownotes. Course. Yeah, the life audit. It's www dot Terra tractor.com/session. You can book it right there, through the Calendly link, and we set it up and it's an hour long, we just have a conversation kind of like this, like what's going on in life like mom's mom, like, this is where I am. And this is what I want to change. This is what I'm struggling with. And then I also have a free community, the middle motherhood community. And that's a longer so I'm not going to try to sell that went out. But it's housed in an app called Mighty networks. So I've taken it off of social media, just from personal preferences of wanting to be intentional about doing this work. But within the free community. There's different workshops in there. There's different free trainings. It's where like, my podcast goes every week has okay. I'm taking imperfect action and putting a podcast out but I haven't actually like gone through and started the full launch of a podcast into the you know, where you normally listen to podcasts, but it is available, the weekly show is available on in the community. Okay, okay. That's good to know. I didn't know that. So, okay. Yeah, perfect. All right. And is there anything you want to leave moms with today, something that they can do this week to help them in this middle motherhood journey. Um, I think one, just realizing you're at a really unique opportunity in life, like, I really feel like it's a huge sweet spot, a chance to kind of catch your breath. And I think, just know that. In this space, you have this really cool opportunity to co create your life with God. And if you don't realize that, and if you don't try to take the next steps or figure out what you're being called for, you're creating something either way. You're either creating something that you really want or you don't want. And so just know that like your story matters. Like what you do in life, how you're serving who you are, matters. Like there was a really unique reason why you were made with certain gifts and certain talents and and try to learn them, try to embrace them, try to know yourself authentically. Because when you do it, it just like we all get to write a page in God's history book. Our lives are this blank page and it's a really In my opinion, really cool visual to think about our lives are a part of his history. So what are we doing with them. And when we kind of just stay stuck and stay stagnant in that fear, we're really kind of letting the enemy win over our life. And that's not a really fun place to stay. So just know that you have a choice and that you do get a say in creating what you do next and embrace it as a really cool opportunity and an adventure to do some really amazing things. 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